tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146631502024-03-13T21:34:42.303-07:00Junarakasa's StoryLife is a story. There are good parts & there are bad, there are happy chapters & there are sad. Sometimes you hold your breath when the plot thickens and sometimes you sigh when there are long gaps in-between. Every day is like turning the next page, there is the anticipation that this could be the best part. Everyone has a story. This is mine.Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.comBlogger505125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-32257347705126898352019-02-09T18:35:00.000-08:002019-02-09T18:35:29.409-08:00MenudoToday I made menudo, a dish from my childhood. I’ve eaten it
countless times growing up. In our house, it was not a special dish
that was served at parties. Instead it was an everyday dish that my mom
or the maids would prepare for regular days. Just simple comfort food.<br />
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FYI, Filipino menudo is very different from Mexican menudo. But mine is
not quite the Pinoy version either. For my take on menudo, I skipped
the atay (I hate liver), omitted raisins (Jamie hates raisins), didn’t
add potatoes (we had none in the pantry), added green peas (cause the
dish looked way too red), and used sausage instead of hotdogs. <br />
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It looks close enough and still tastes like home. While eating it, it
made me homesick for the fun family meals we had back home. <span class="_5mfr"><span class="_6qdm" style="background-image: url("https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/te/1/16/1f622.png"); font-size: 16px; height: 16px; width: 16px;">😢</span></span><span class="_5mfr"><span class="_6qdm" style="background-image: url("https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/te/1/16/1f622.png"); font-size: 16px; height: 16px; width: 16px;">😢</span></span><span class="_5mfr"><span class="_6qdm" style="background-image: url("https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/te/1/16/1f622.png"); font-size: 16px; height: 16px; width: 16px;">😢</span></span>
Missing my dad, mom, my brothers and sisters, and the many friends
always present, gathered around our giant dining table. It’s amazing how
the taste and smell of a dish can bring you home. <span class="_5mfr"><span class="_6qdm" style="background-image: url("https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t6c/1/16/2764.png"); font-size: 16px; height: 16px; width: 16px;">❤️</span></span><span class="_5mfr"><span class="_6qdm" style="background-image: url("https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t6c/1/16/2764.png"); font-size: 16px; height: 16px; width: 16px;">❤️</span></span><span class="_5mfr"><span class="_6qdm" style="background-image: url("https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t6c/1/16/2764.png"); font-size: 16px; height: 16px; width: 16px;">❤️</span></span>Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-21075629219824385352019-02-01T13:29:00.003-08:002019-02-01T13:30:02.265-08:00Not Fighting My Child's Battles<br />
The other day, I picked Jamie up from school and right away
noticed she wasn’t her usual bubbly self.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I gently pried to find out why as she was hesitant to open up right away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Turns out during play time, she was in the sand
pit playing with her friends Isabella and Brooklyn (I. and B.).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When her two friends ran off, Jamie couldn’t
find them, so she turned and started playing with one of her first grade friends.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Later, I. and B. came back and told Jamie
they wanted to resume playing (they had raced off thinking Jamie was following
them).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Jamie couldn’t just then as she was
finishing building sand pits with her first grade playmate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once she finished though, she ran towards I.
and B. to let them know they could all play together again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Well, by that time, I. (the more outspoken and
more assertive of the two) said “No, you can’t play with us anymore.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You picked someone else.”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Jamie tried to follow them and explain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And I. loudly said “Stop following us. Go
away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you follow us, I’m going to put
red ants on you”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Then when Jamie tried
again, I. leaned towards the ground to pick up red ants.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So, Jamie just walked away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><br />
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Ordinarily, other kids would shrug it off.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But Jamie is very sensitive to things like
rejection.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Also, it isn’t the first time
I. has been domineering towards her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And
so, it deeply affected Jamie to the point that she started crying when she
retold the story to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My first
reaction was to go all “mama bear” and hunt down I. to tell her off.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But I calmed down enough to think
rationally.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I thought about bringing
this up to Mrs. Sitter (the 2<sup>nd</sup> grade teacher) or even the school
principal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, it was (as of now)
an isolated incident and I didn’t think it was fair to get anyone in trouble
for that.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Also, I didn’t want to be that
kind of mom who makes mountains out of molehills because someone made her
daughter cry in the playground.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lastly,
I didn’t want to give Jamie the impression that I would “fight all her battles”
for her and that she could just sit back and just let mommy deal with her
problems.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As much as I wanted to do it
for her, I think being a good mom is allowing your kids to learn to deal with
things their way (while standing in the background and cheering them on!).<br />
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So, I let it go.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But
made sure I explained to Jamie that what I. did (being mean) and what B. did
(being passive to someone being mean) is not right and definitely not something
I’d want her to do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Then I explained
that she needs to stand up for herself too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>That means either speaking up and confronting someone or in some cases,
just walking away when confrontation is futile or will just escalate things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I explained that in life there are little
battles we go through and we just need to pick and choose what are worth fighting
over.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Winning is not always being the loudest
in arguing, or most dominant person, in some cases, it could be the better
person is the one that just lets things go and moves on with their lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But at the end of it all, I told her, that
the person who does things with kindness is the person who ends up being the
winner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It seems to have resonated with
Jamie and she seems to understand what I was trying to say.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She also said it would probably better to
just hang out with her other friends (she has many others!) rather than with I.
or even B., at this time.<br />
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P.S. For anyone curious as to what happened next, read on: <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I should have mentioned, I.’s mom is someone I
have gotten friendly with over the last year or so.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She and I text regularly about the girls and
random school stuff.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Anyway, the next text
I sent, I casually brought up what happened.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I made it VERY CLEAR that I was not accusing her daughter of anything
but only that her daughter’s actions had hurt Jamie. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I told her I was sad because the girls are
such good friends. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I.’s mom was very
gracious and very apologetic.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She said
that I. did admit to doing those things and was also sorry.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In fact, she wanted to video chat with Jamie
to apologize. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(Also, I later heard that I.
got in trouble when her dad found out what happened.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I. is grounded from using her Ipad and
watching tv for a week so she will remember to use kind word (her mom said). <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><br />
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44 random little things that make me happy:<br />
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<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Staying
in during cold, rainy days</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Starting
a new book that I’ve been waiting to read</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Mommy
and Jamie time</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Finishing
a bath and then brushing my teeth </li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Crisp,
new sheets when I climb into bed</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">First
bite of my favorite meal</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Mindless
Christmas movies on the Hallmark channel</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Finding
an item that I love on Clearance Sale</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Shopping
in home goods stores</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Dinners
in with good friends that end with too much laughing</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">The
reveal portion of home design tv shows</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Weekends
with Jojo and Jamie – and having no plans</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Hearty
meals simmering all day in the crock pot</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">The
smell of rain or freshly mowed grass</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">My
mom’s home cooking </li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">The
fit of two-day old jeans</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Good
hair days</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Online
shopping – except for books</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Shopping
for books in a bookstore</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Sleeping
in</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Starting
the day with Filipino breakfasts (“silogs” are the best)</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">An
ice-cold glass of Diet Coke on a warm day</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Wearing
pajamas all day</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Falling
asleep with Jojo (it’s honestly hard for me to sleep without him)</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Hotpot
dinners </li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Scented
candles</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Colored
gel pens</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Stationery
and pretty notebooks</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Journaling
/ blogging </li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Singing
along to a song I love while driving</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Songs
from my favorite Broadway shows</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Romcoms
that affirm true love still exists</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Meet
ups with close girlfriends</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Shopping
with my sisters</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Finding
an easy but yummy recipe</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Watching
movies in bed with Jojo (after Jamie has gone to bed)</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Getting
my back scratched</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Finding
stylish yet comfy shoes – on sale!</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Weighing
myself and finding out I lost weight</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Coloring
(colored pencils and adult coloring books)</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Warm
showers</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Barbecuing
with my family</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Catching
a favorite movie on cable</li>
<li style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; margin-left: 0in;">Handwritten
letters and notes</li>
</ol>
<b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup><strike></strike>Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-35737096977689252822019-01-28T17:48:00.001-08:002019-01-28T17:48:44.032-08:00Love and Other Consolation Prizes by Jamie FordJust finished Jamie Ford's book, "Love and Other Consolation Prizes". I enjoyed the book and found the premise very interesting. The book explored many topics that caused much controversy during the period the story was told. Mixed marriages, biracial children, slavery, brothels and prostitution ... to name a few. But the book also explored universal values like hope, selflessness, hard work, and true love that transcends such negativity in the world. <br />
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Overall, I liked the book and thought Jamie Ford wrote with such a clarity that I could almost picture the characters in various scenes. The book did have some slow parts (causing me to flip forward a few pages just to speed things up). I have a tendency to do that, but somehow, force myself to go back and re-read what I skipped over. I always worry I missed a significant detail or an important arc in the story. The book (without giving away spoilers) had a nice ending that allowed readers who were invested in the story to find some closure when the story "ended". I liked how Mr. Ford wrapped things up for the main characters without making anything seem cliche. <br />
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I'd rate this book an 8 out of 10. It is definitely a very pleasant read and a good novel that captured my attention. I would recommend it to those who like historical fiction and to those who enjoy stories where the hero/heroine experience hardships in life, but with traits like faithfulness and love, find themselves in much better circumstances in the end.<br />
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P.S. My first attempt at a brief book review. It's surprising how I've never donoe this before considering how much I read and how I often I used to blog. Maybe there'll be more of this in th future ... who knows?Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-18820253761369710612019-01-20T19:36:00.002-08:002019-01-20T19:36:15.872-08:00Turning Forty-fourOn the eve before my 44th birthday, I sit and reflect on things I need to focus more on this year. I have 4 birthday resolutions that I will try my best-est to make sure I stick to this year. First, I will eat healthier. In the last few years, I have not paid any attention to what I eat. Basically just eating what I want, when I want, and in quantities that I want. Obviously, that eating style coupled with my slowed down metabolism (thanks to my age) and just genes in general have resulted in weight gain. So, I definitely want to now really pay attention to what I eat - not deprive or starve myself - but be more conscious of what I am fueling myself with.<br />
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Second, I want to exercise more. That's kind of misleading. "exercise more" implies exercise has been or is being done when in fact, no exercise is happening. So I guess the statement should be "I want to exercise". Jojo is gifting me with a treadmill and I hope to do at least 30 minutes on it daily. That doesn't seem like a very intimidating goal. The diet and exercise isn't just to lose weight (although that would be a very nice bonus). But moreso to be healthier. I'm not getting any younger and the statistics on diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, etc. are scary!<br />
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Third, I want to expand my mind more. I read a lot. But I want to read more. And am hoping to expand my reading selection to include autobiographies of inspiring people, maybe books that help make me be a better person, parent, sister, friend. So while I will still indulge in my fiction favorites, I'll definitely make a conscious effort to diversify.<br />
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Lastly, I will make an effort to be less stressed and less weighed down by things I have no control over. Petty grievances, unnecessary worry, feeling pulled in too many directions, and just feeling depressed over things I can't control - I wan to consciously avoid. I need to learn to say no, to set boundaries, to give up control. It's not very clearly defined how I'll accomplish this but just saying it out loud and putting it into words helps.<br />
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So, 4 resolutions as I turn 44. It's been a great life thus far and with these as a guidelines, I know there is so much more and better things in store! Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-18064496156009892712018-10-29T20:02:00.001-07:002018-10-29T20:06:55.531-07:00New Things Since October 2012So, my blogging has been on hiatus since January 2012. Lots of things have happened since then. I think it's important for me to give a rundown of a few pertinent facts that have transpired in that time period:<br />
1.) Jamie is now 7 years old. She was 2 when I went on a blogging break. She's in second grade at SJS (a Catholic school).<br />
2.) I'm now working for an engineering company (not as an engineer - although I could have gotten an engineering degree in the time since my last post in 2012). I did not. I work "behind the scenes".<br />
3.) Jojo now works for a multi-national company in LA. He's still in IT. But he's now a big shot IT executive.<br />
4.) We still live in the same house but have had several renovations since then. It's the same house but not the same house.<br />
5.) My sister Joy got married on April 2012. My brother Jules got married in 2017. My brother Jim got engaged just this month. I have a wonderful brother in law and two wonderful sisters in law.<br />
6.) Since 2012, I have two more nephews and 2 more nieces on Jojo's side and 1 more niece and 1 more on the way on my side. Our family is growing!<br />
7.) In 2013 we found out Jamie has food allergies. Bad food allergies. We've lived in fear for her life. But in 2015 we heard of a fantastic doctor who treated such allergies. We signed up to see him and a year later we started the program. It's been 2+ years since and true blue miracles have happened / are happening. I know I'll blog more about that in a separate entry at some point.<br />
8.) I now drive a Honda Pilot. I used to think I would never drive anything so massive. But now, I can't imagine downsizing.<br />
9.) I still like to read and have probably what can be considered a book addiction. I seriously have fears of running out of books to read. I worry about finishing the current book I am reading and not having another one to take its place. So I order books and then commiserate about not having time to read the all. Although I secretly love having a stack of books to read whenever I want. Sounds crazy to others but completely rational to me.<br />
10.) I'm still talking myself into exercising more and trying to lose weight. It's been a long time since I started doing this and I've had my share of ups and downs - it's been a struggle. But the good news is I have not given up on myself and I know it will happen ... eventually. =) Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-79495447838322864492018-10-28T16:46:00.001-07:002018-10-29T20:03:42.095-07:00Allie's ArrivalYesterday (October 27th, Manila time), my niece, Allie was born. She is the daughter of my brother, Jules, and his wife, Juliene. We have been waiting for her arrival for quite some time now and seeing their first family picture brought me an emotional realization. Although I've been shopping for baby clothes for Allie, I've sent Juliene lotions for stretch marks, and I've been giving them parenting advice, it was seeing the photo of their three happy faces that made everything so real. I think it was seeing my brother's face right next to his new daughter that made me realize - he's a dad! And now I'm all sentimental.<br />
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Jules is three years younger than me. That makes him 40 years old! He is hardly a kid anymore. But, for me, he will forever be my kid brother. The one I laugh and joke with, the one I call silly names (Julsie Pogs, Pyugi), the one who I am protective towards, and the one I always feel I need to look out for. It's just a little bit surreal to see him married and now become a father as well. It's surreal but in a good kind of way.<br />
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I wish him the very best. Parenthood is an amazing journey and he is in for quite a ride. I know he'll do great. He and Juliene will be fantastic parents. Allie is lucky to have them. But I know too, that along the way, if he needs me, I'm still going to be there for Jules. And that now goes for his family as well. I'll still be there for my kid brother, after all, a big sister's job is never done =) Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-41645481328688002102018-10-25T14:21:00.000-07:002018-10-25T14:21:39.955-07:00I'm BackTesting this out. It’s been over 6 years since my last post. So much has changed, around the world in general, and also within my life. I don’t really know where to start. But I do miss blogging and just getting my thoughts onto paper. So I'm back! It’s been a while but I think it’ll be just like riding a bike. But first things first, let’s check and see if this thing still actually works and I’m still able to post! Let’s start with this for now.Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-29030464113330622732012-01-18T15:04:00.000-08:002012-01-18T15:06:22.090-08:002012 Birthday wish listRecently I posted on Facebook that this year I tried to create my annual wish list but realized that this year it was harder for me to come up with one. I am at a point in my life where I am blessed with so much that I actually already have all that I need. And the things that I just "want", I know I probably don’t really need. Of course, even with those realizations, I still wouldn’t mind getting presents … so here is this year’s list. (It’s just really fun to do them even if I don’t really get everything on them!).<br /><br />Crate and Barrel – Thermal Mirror Carafe (I’d like two please).<br />I’m obsessed with silver carafes – I think they are so elegant and they make even plain old drinking water seem more special when served from one of these. <br />http://www.crateandbarrel.com/dining-and-entertaining/pitchers-and-decanters/thermal-mirror-carafe/s666645<br /><br />SodaStream Genesis Soda Maker – In Black, please.<br />Saw the commercial and I thought to myself “My own soda maker, cool!”. It promises to be quick and easy to use. Plus good for the environment (no more soda bottles and cans to dispose of) and better for us too (no more high fructose corn syrup or aspartame). Need I say more?<br />http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?SKU=128034<br /><br />JJ Cole System 180 diaper bag – Black Damask<br />Yes, it’s my birthday and should be my present but a good diaper bag for my daughter would make MY life so much easier!<br />http://jjcolecollections.com/system-180-bag<br /><br />Twilight Saga (boxed set). <br />I must confess I am a Twilight fan. It is a guilty pleasure. Read the books while in Manila (my sister’s friend lent us her paperbacks) now I want my own. Why? I don’t really know, just thought it would be nice to have them as part of my book collection. <br />http://www.amazon.com/Twilight-Saga-Boxed-Collectable-prints/dp/B001LYBYQS<br /><br />Komachi Knife Set with Block<br />First of all, a budding chef (like myself) always needs good knives. Just look at how pretty these are (bright colors, cool block). But more than pretty, these knives are serious tools for any kitchen!<br />http://www.amazon.com/Pure-Komachi-9-Piece-Knife-Block/dp/B0029XAAQ0%3FSubscriptionId%3DAKIAJFDWI7DARHXWAJGA%26tag%3Dgiftscom07-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3DB0029XAAQ0<br /><br />Beverage dispenser<br />Picture this – a balmy Spring evening, family and friends around the patio, steaks and sweet corn on the grill, and free-flowing freshly-made lemonade right from our very own tree served in one of these dispensers. Life would be good.<br />http://www.horchow.com/store/catalog/templates/HP4.jhtml?itemId=cat2840732&parentId=cat000032&masterId=cat14540735&cmCat=&view=&page=1&filter1Type=&filter1Value=&filter2Type=&filter2Value=&filterOverride=&sort=&altFilter=<br /><br />Also, one could never go wrong with giftcards. Some people think they are impersonal and mean that the giver didn’t want to exert any thought or effort in picking something out. I happen to think they are an easy solution that makes everyone happy. The giver is safe in gift-giving etiquette by getting something that will be used and appreciated. The receiver is happy that he/she gets a present (the thought is there) and that he/she can really get what he/she likes. I think it does matter though to get giftcards to a store that the receiver actually likes to shop in! In my case, giftcards to Barnes & Noble, Homegoods, Kohls and Target would be much appreciated!Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-74481716430642650062012-01-14T10:51:00.000-08:002012-01-14T11:09:15.159-08:00On Being a ParentI never had any misconceptions that being a parent was easy. I knew the moment that I was pregnant that I would be in for a tough ride. Of course, one can never really prepare for how tough things can get until one is already in the midst of things! Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love being a mom and Jamie is a wonderful baby (she has her moments but for the most part she is pretty no-fuss). I guess it's just an adjustment for me - being a completely hands-on mom and all.<br /><br />Growing up, I always knew I would be a mom (I've always wanted kids of my own!). But I guess I grew up thinking I would always be surrounded by people who would help me take care of my kids. There would be my own mom, my aunts, sisters, friends - and most especially maids and yayas! I saw my family and friends have kids and while they were all good mothers - they still went about life without too much change. <br /><br />Who knew I would end up living in the States and having my child here? And while I do have help (my sister, Joy, lives with us and my hubby, Jojo is also very involved) - and of course we have daycare now. But for the most part, I am the main person who looks after my baby girl. It's a weird feeling that is hard for me to describe. On the one hand, I am thrilled to have so much time with my daughter - feeding her, changing her, bathing her, playing with her, reading to her, sleeping with her, etc. On the other hand, I also worry about her and about how well I am raising her. <br /><br />My sister, Joy, once said she admires me for being so hands-on and for giving up so many things so I can take care of Jamie. For starters, I don't get to go out as much (hard to find capable babysitters!). I have to do housework in between Jamie's naps. I no longer have time for myself (reading, shopping, watching movies are now unheard of!). I have not had a full night's sleep since this little girl was born! I have learned to eat dinner in 5 minutes while standing up in the kitchen (sometimes while carrying Jamie). I have learned how to change diapers in public restrooms, from the backseat of our car, in restaurants, etc. I have learned to pacify Jamie when she gets antsy in the middle of crowded places and church. I have stopped shopping for myself and now just get things for her. <br /><br />I guess you could say I did sacrifice a lot for my daughter. But I don't have any regrets and I would not mind doing it all over again for my daughter. And while I still wouldn't mind getting a yaya to help me out - I do think that being a hands-on mom is pretty priceless!Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-55283094979880744282012-01-03T11:25:00.000-08:002012-01-03T11:27:06.472-08:00Things to Do in 2012It’s a New Year. And normally, time for new year resolutions. I’ve never been big on making resolutions – too much pressure to keep them and then feeling disappointed when I don’t. So instead of New Year Resolutions, I just call mine “things to do in 2012”.<br /><br />Number one: be healthier. I was at the peak of healthy living when I was pregnant. I actually lost weight before pregnancy, during pregnancy and after pregnancy. Believe it or not, I was eating so much better and actually going to the gym regularly. But after maternity leave was over, I went back to work and to my old habits (poor food choices and not exercising). This year I need to be healthier – not just for myself but for my baby too.<br /><br />Number two: find time to read. Of course, reading has taken a backseat to everything going on in my life. But the sad part is that even during my down time, I have not picked up a good book in such a long time. All this technology (Internet, Social Networks, television, video games, etc.) has corrupted my mind! I need to go back to the basics – and to what I love to do – read! <br /><br />Number three: bring out the Ina Garten in me. We’ve recently had a kitchen renovation done and I now love my new kitchen. I must go back to making home-cooked meals. Lately we’ve been eating out a lot, taking out food, or cooking at home (but still relying heavily of prepared food from the grocery). My sister, Joy, has also been more active in the cooking department. I used to cook more before and would even document in pictures and posts my culinary adventures. I need to get back to cooking more (especially now that Jamie is starting to eat fruits and veggies). <br /><br />Number four: enough with unnecessary spending. One of the things I love to do is putter around discount stores (Ross, Marshalls, TJ Maxx, Homegoods, Tuesday Morning are my faves!). Even if I don’t need anything new, I always end up buying something whenever I go. It’s almost like an addiction. I figure that in order to eliminate this habit, I need to stop going to the source! Therefore, I vow to only go shopping when I actually need something!<br /><br />Number five: make an effort to make and meet friends. Since moving to the States, I’ve been very passive about making and maintaining friendships. It is very easy to fall into the standard “I’m so busy” lifestyle. And while being busy is a fact of life here, I still need to make a conscious effort to foster relationships. <br /><br />It goes without saying that in 2012, I’d like to be a better wife and mom. I’d like to have a healthier spiritual life. I’d like to do well in my career. And also, spend time with my family. I’d like to maintain my blog. And find time to learn something new. Hopefully the next 365 (actually I’m now down 4 days since today is January 4th), will allow me to do so!Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-29943613253531597302011-12-28T11:16:00.000-08:002011-12-28T11:40:36.542-08:00My Christmas ListThis year's Christmas List was fairly easy to shop for. I was proud of myself for actually finishing my shopping early (and for getting all my gifts, wrapped, tagged and delivered on time. For all this, I would like to personally thank the World Wide Web!!! The Internet has made shopping, shipping and sharing presents hassle-free, convenient and actually efficient!<br /><br />This year I had several categories for gifts:<br /><br />First, was for my baby girl: Jamie got a V-Tech Toy/Walker from mom and dad. And books and clothes from Santa.<br /><br />Second, was for my hubby: Jojo got Nike Shocks shoes from me.<br /><br />Third, was for my sisters and brothers-in-law: gifts that I personally thought of knowing what they needed or would enjoy. Gift cards for Joy and Marc to their favorite stores and an indoor grill and a set of towels for Atsi and Mark.<br /><br />Fourth, was for my in-laws: this year I made kits for each couple. I wrapped up a Pasta Boat (the instant pasta cooker which allows you to make perfect al dente pasta right from your microwave!), a box of whole wheat penne pasta, and a jar of organic pasta sauce. Viola ... a ready-to-use pasta kit!<br /><br />Fifth, for my nieces and nephews: I got them all matching track / jogging suits.<br /><br />Sixth, for our neighbors, doctors, family friends, dentists, etc: I made cookie baskets (wrapped up a variety of cookies in different containers, clustered them in baskets and wrapped them in cellophane and ribbons).<br /><br />Seventh, for far-away friends and family: we sent edible fruit arrangements.<br /><br />And of course, we sent lots of Xmas cards and online greetings.<br /><br />Next year, we'll have to start shopping for our family and friends in Manila cause we're hoping to celebrate the holidays back home =) Now that might be a challenge!Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-23611751006245605512011-12-28T09:55:00.000-08:002011-12-28T10:14:59.303-08:00Xmas 2011This year our Christmas celebration can only be described as subdued. We had grand plans ... after all, it was Jamie's first every Yuletide holiday. But grand plans always have a way of changing ... sometimes when you least expect it. This year was the perfect example. We intended to celebrate Xmas eve with Jojo's family. It would be the traditional Ordinario gathering, where everyone congregates for a night of games, presents and eating. This year we were celebrating at my brother-in-law, Jay's new place. <br /><br />The next day (Xmas day), would be a celebration with my side of the family (or at least with my two sisters and their husbands). This time it would be at our place and we were all looking forward to a home-cooked potluck that would make my mom truly proud. We also planned cozying up in the living room, watching Xmas movies and sipping warm cocoa while Jamie opened up her Xmas presents. All in all, Xmas weekend was looking good!<br /><br />Instead, on Saturday (the 24th), my sister, Jenny, and I chatted via sorenson and she tells me her husband, Mark, is down with a horrible case of the flu. It was so bad that they had to rush to the emergency room at 5:00 AM that morning because his sinuses were so clogged. He was slightly better but still had a bad cold. They would have to cancel their dinner with friends on Xmas eve and could not make it to our place on Xmas day. <br /><br />After that, Jojo received a text from his sisters (Tracy and Marik) were down with the flu as well. Turns out, Jojo's brother-in-law, Jesse, also had the sniffles. We had to bail out of going to Xmas dinner because we could not risk Jamie getting sick. She was due for her 2nd round of flu vaccinations on Wed (the 28th). She needed to get her shot on the 28th since we had already postponed twice (due to her getting sick as well). <br /><br />There goes our Xmas plans. I was horribly disappointed. It was the 24th already and we had nothing planned for that evening or for the next day. I actually started feeling depressed thinking that my daughter's first Xmas was ruined! Luckily my sister, Joy and her hubby, Marc were with us. They got me psyched again when they said we could have a mini-celebration together. It would be fun they convinced me. So I pulled myself together and we made last minute plans.<br /><br />Here is what we did for our last-minute, impromptu Xmas weekend.<br /><br />On the 24th, we bundled Jamie up and walked around our neighborhood to give Xmas presents to our neighbors. It was really nice catching up with them and coming into their homes for a quick chat. Of course, it was super thoughtful how they all had a little something for our little girl. Then we dressed up and had dinner out. Not a lot of places were open on Xmas eve - and we ended up in Black Angus (surprisingly their rib-eye dinners were really good!). Then we headed home and just watched movies till midnight. <br /><br />On the 25th, we woke up early and had a yummy sausage and waffle breakfast. Then clad in our robes and pajamas, we opened our Xmas presents. It was heaven for Jamie who had a mountain of presents just for her. Not surprisingly she enjoyed the gift wrappers and boxes more than the actual presents. It was priceless seeing her face as we did the oohing and aahing for her. We then went to Xmas mass and had a super yummy lunch at our new favorite place (The Boiling Point). Then we went home and just chilled - watched movies, played games and called friends and family. Soon we started cooking Xmas day dinner. It was a feast (once again) - garlic rice, salpicao, garlic shrimps, asparagus, grilled chicken pasta, and a fresh veggie and drip tray. <br /><br />All in all, it wasn't quite the Xmas I had imagined. But in the end, it turned out to be pretty special after all.Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-63907702819537448582011-12-15T16:08:00.000-08:002011-12-15T16:38:34.583-08:00Q&AOne of the bloggers I follow posted this on her blog ... it's a random list of questions she answered ... and I thought it would be fun to do so too.<br /><br />1. What do you order at Starbucks?<br />I hardly ever go to Starbucks but if I do I order basic iced or hot coffee (depending on the weather!). I never ever order any frou-frou drink that costs more than it should and adds more calories than it should!<br /><br />2. What's one thing in your closet that you cannot live without?<br />It's hard to pick just one. I love my classics ... my South Sea pearl studs and strands, my red wool coat, my dressy black slacks, and shift dresses that I can wear anywhere. Oh and my almost-grungy but super-comfy pajamas (that my mom has been begging me to throw out).<br /><br />3. What's one thing that most people probably wouldn't know about you?<br />I honestly can't think of anything .... it's either that I am horribly transparent and obvious or that I can't think of anything worth mentioning.<br /><br />4. Name one thing that you want to do before you die.<br />Travel to Europe with Jojo.<br /><br />5. What's one food that you cannot live without?<br />Rice - I could eat it breakfast, lunch and dinner (what can I say, I'm an Asian at heart!?). <br /> <br />6. What quote/phrase do you live your life by?<br />Laughter is the best medicine.<br /><br />7. What do you like and dislike about yourself?<br />Like: I'm pretty low maintenance, it doesn't take much to make me happy. I am secure in myself and am comfortable in my own skin. I am basically a good person and live by what my parents taught me.<br />Dislike: I wish I were more organized and had more of a system. I wish I were more patient. And I should also probably work on becoming healthier (now that I am getting older).<br /><br />8. Who is the literary/movie character you are most like?<br />Probably Lizzie Bennet - cause I was the most "different" of my mom's daughters and didn't really conform, the way I was suppose to conform. And also I was opinionated and independent. I also think I'm a bit like Josephine March - a bit "rough around the edges" and by no means a girlie-girl, a writer, a dreamer and someone who wants to do something good with her life.<br /><br />9. What kind of style would you define yourself as having?<br />I'd like to say "classic" but often times I go more for comfort and practicality. Like I said, I'm not much of a girlie-girl! =)<br /><br />10. Favorite number.<br />Eight<br /><br />11. Favorite scent.<br />Perfume: Elizabeth Arden's Green Tea<br />Everything else: I love the smell of books/paper, freshly sharpened pencils, the earth right after it rains, and newly roasted coffee.<br /><br />12: Two pet peeves:<br />Filipinos who live abroad and "forget" to speak Tagalog (even though their accents and wrong grammar say otherwise!).<br />People who talk on their cellphones when they aren't supposed to.<br /><br />13: Guilty pleasures:<br />Eating junkfood, watching Lifetime channel movies and reading in bed ... when I should probably be doing housework!<br /><br />14. If I won a million dollars in the lottery, I would:<br />Pay off our mortgage, treat my entire family to a month-long vacation, start a college fund for my daughter, maximize our retirement fund, and give the rest to charity.<br /><br />15. Wish I could ...<br />Go back home to Manila for the holidays.Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-27379286769547383542011-12-14T11:06:00.000-08:002011-12-14T11:26:02.916-08:00Eight is Great!Dear Jamie,<br /><br />It's 12 days since your 8th month birthday. I hope you don't take it against your well-meaning mother that these posts are coming in later and later every month. The days just seem to get shorter and in direct proportion my to-do list just keeps getting longer. But, trust me when I say, my time with you is never ever compromised. I still make it a point (no matter how hectic or stressful the day is) to find time to be with you. Of course, it goes without saying that I feed you, change you, dress you, pick you up when you are fussy and soothe you when you cry. But I also find time to play with you, read to you, laugh with you, and have quiet times when I rock you to sleep or hold you in my arms before you drift off to lala land. <br /><br />You have grown so tremendously over the last few weeks / months. When your daddy and I compare your newborn pictures to how you look today, we marvel at the miracle of your development. What a beautiful experience it is for us to watch you grow. In the last month, you have not only learned to stand on your own, you have started becoming much more mobile. You can crawl really fast but more than that, you can inch your way around your crib (while standing and holding on to the rails). It's pretty funny (and scary) how you can pull yourself up from a sitting position to a standing position - but then you look down and get this confused glint in your eyes. It's as if you are wondering "Well, now that I'm up, how do I get back down again?". And then without warning you just let go of the rails and plop back down. Most times you fall unscathed but there are times when you fall on the railing or hit the corner of the crib. My heart literally stops and I rush off to catch you (if I can ) or soothe you (if I get there too late). <br /><br />What a fearless little girl you are! I hope you never lose that sense of wonder wherein you curiously explore the world and jump in to try new experiences. I only pray that you do so with your eyes open (Look before you leap!) and considering the consequences. I will always do my best to be there to catch you when you fall - but there will be times when I won't be there. As your mom, I want to teach you that after every fall, you can get up, brush yourself off, and keep going!<br /><br />During your 8th month, you started eating your pureed foods. I was worried for a while because you seemed to dislike solids and just wanted to drink milk all the time. I tried making homemade food but it turns out you like the store-bought variety better. I've been buying you Earth's Best organic foods and you love it! Your favorites this month include: carrots, winter squash, sweet potato, peas, apples, bananas and pears. You have turned into quite the eater (which makes me glad and confirms you are truly my child - not that there was every any doubt!).<br /><br />The latter part of your 8th month, mommy had the flu, which was caught by daddy, and then finally, you. It makes me sad to see you sick (with your nose all congested). But I am glad that through it all you are very good natured, don't lose your appetite, and still sleep through the night.<br /><br />Jamie, my beautiful and happy baby, happy 8th month birthday. I am so blessed to be your mom and I cherish every moment we share together.<br /><br />Love,<br />mommyJunarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-81065282428454964632011-11-10T10:21:00.000-08:002011-11-10T10:43:58.007-08:00Lucky SevenDear Jamie-Badooshie,<br /><br />This letter is very, very overdue. Your 7th month birthday was 11 days ago. I am SO sorry that this is coming so late. All I can say is, I hope the extra playtime we've shared make up for the lateness of this post =)<br /><br />Your 7th month was certainly eventful. There were lots of good and not-so-good highlights. When I say "not-so-good", I don't mean anything terrible. For example, you got your second bout with the nasty cold this month, you also had low-fade fever for about a day or two after your vaccinations, and this month, your beloved grandmothers (both mommy lola and guama) went back to the Philippines. <br /><br />But the good things certainly outweighed the not so good ones. This month you started eating solids! I was so excited to give you your first taste of rice cereal. The first feeding, guama held you up while I fed you tiny spoonfuls. You absolutely loved it. You ate every bite and looked like you were really relishing the taste. I was so happy that I proudly posted the accomplishment of facebook (right after your first meal). I guess that was a very premature thing to do because after that, you refused to eat rice cereal afterwards. We tried every trick in the book but you proved to be wise beyond your years because you knew exactly what we were up too. I whipped out the Baby Bullet and made you homemade sweet potatoes (hoping that the "sweetness" would entice you to eat). So far, it's been more misses than hits - but I have every faith that we'll get there!<br /><br />This month, you also experienced your very first Halloween. I, being the overly excited stage mother than I am, bought you a cute piglet costume around 2-3 months ago. I thought it would be fun for your dad, you and I to dress as "The 3 Little Pigs". But two days before your Tito Lee's Halloween party, we could not find adult pig costumes and your costume was still too big for you to wear. So one day before the party, we head off to Party City to hunt for costumes. At first, I wanted you and me to dress up as angels and daddy would dress as the devil. But the baby angel costume was not in stock. Our next option was for daddy and me to dress as bacon and eggs while you would be a baby hotdog in a bun. We scrapped the idea too after we saw how hard it would be to get you in the bun! My last ingenious idea was for us to dress as a family of ladybugs. Now, your daddy put his foot down. He agreed to be a pig, he was okay with being the devil and he was fine with being bacon. But he just was not okay with being a ladybug (even if I told him we would refer to him as a man-bug). So in the end, you and I were ladybugs and daddy came as The Phantom of the Opera. You were a darling ladybug, Jamie! Even if you desperately tried to remove your ladybug antennas all night! <br /><br />This month, daddy also started a new job. His job entails him working from 2:30 to 11:00 PM. So he takes you to daycare in the morning, and I pick you up at night. Usually I come get you around 6 PM and you and I are together till Auntie Joy comes homes around 8 and when daddy gets home past 11. I'll be honest, Jamie, it has been a little hard trying to cook dinner and do chores around the house - when the whole time you refuse to be put down in the crib and want to be carried all the time. Most nights, I just toast bread and eat it standing up while carrying you in my arms. Some nights, I have to put you down in the crib and make a mad dash to go pee or brush my teeth. Then I have to rush back when you start to cry. I also never get to blog or check my Facebook because I don't like leaving you in bed alone (when you do fall asleep) because you have started to roll much faster!). But even if it has been challenging, I love our time together! I enjoy having you all to myself. My favorite is when we are both done with dinner, changing and doing what needs to be done - and we cuddle on the big bed together. Usually we read a story, watch a little tv, then we lie next to each other and I make up silly words and silly songs to make you laugh. You make a really good audience - as you laugh, giggle and pat my face. After that we say our prayers and you fall asleep in my arms. Daddy often comes home to us sleeping together. <br /><br />This month has gone by so quickly and this next one (already underway) will undoubtably whiz by just as fast. But I don't want to get sad about that. I want to enjoy every moment with you and eagerly await the next one. I also take great pride in watching you grow and spread your wings. I love you so much, Jamie. I hope you never forget that my little lady/babybug!<br /><br />Love,<br />MommyJunarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-27340405400595241602011-09-30T17:08:00.001-07:002011-09-30T17:08:32.446-07:00Half a Year!Happy half-year birthday to our dearest Jamie!<br />You are 6-months old today. I am so amazed at how much has happened lately. In the last 4 weeks since my last post, your personality has really started to show. You have become so much more “mild-mannered” and patient. In the past, you would cry at every time we put you down (and I mean EVERY SINGLE TIME!). These days, you have started to become more independent. You have learned how to amuse yourself and play quietly in your crib or bassinette. Of course, we don’t ever leave you for very long – but it is nice to see you doing your own thing once in a while. It might be because you have now been attending daycare fulltime for a month – and have learned how to be more patient and how to share other peoples’ time. But also, I think it’s because you are growing up and learning how to just sit and be quiet and how to just play by yourself.<br />This month, guammy and Uncle Jim have come to stay with us too. And you have responded beautifully to having more people in the house. During the weekends when we have a full house (with Uncle Marc, Auntie Jenny and Uncle Mark staying with us), you absolutely thrive on all the attention you get. I love seeing you interact with others. It seems to me that you are not shy at all and will laugh and play with just about anyone. I love that about you and hope that you always maintain such a happy, friendly and carefree spirit.<br />This month, you have also started attending daycare fulltime. I was really worried about how you would adapt to going every day, for the entire day. But just with all things, you amaze and make me proud. You adapted so seamlessly to daycare – and from what I hear from your caretakers, you are a very easy baby to take care of. You smile a lot, sleep a lot, play a lot and are content when carried around. There are days when you do cry and are extra fussy – but luckily those seem to be few and far between. M I am so glad that you seem to enjoy your time at daycare. These days you are kept separate from the other toddlers and stay mostly by yourself in the infant room with your caretaker all to yourself. This October though, I am told there will be another baby coming to join you. I am hoping this will be good for you and allow you to socialize and interact more.<br />This month, we’ve started taking you out more and you behave beautifully for the most part. I am so glad that you are adapting well to different social situations – whether it is attending mass, going to the mall, taking quiet walks in the neighborhood, attending parties, or just dinners out at restaurants. On a side note, everywhere we go we always get complimented on what a beautiful and adorable baby we have. I hope you know that makes mommy and daddy very proud – but that is definitely not the only reason why we love you. I want you to grow up knowing that while being cute and pretty is important – it is not what defines who you are and whether you will be happy. But for now, it’s ok to enjoy all the attention you are getting because you truly are a beautiful baby girl.<br />This month, we have started singing songs to you, reading more books, working with flashcards, and using the alphabet board more. I won’t say you are a genius baby who has adapted to all these learning methods excellently. But I will say, you definitely are smart and seem to pick up new ideas well. Your Auntie Marik was amazed when she saw you hold a book the right way at 5 months old. I was so proud of that too. You possess a very curious mind – always looking around and watching intently. Many times, when you are with us you seem to be listening very carefully to the conversations going on around you. It’s kind of amazing how you seem to understand what is being said. I also love how you now coo and make sounds – almost like you are speaking. I just know that when you finally get to talk you will have lots of very interesting things to say.<br />Jamie, I want you to know that daddy and I love you very much. Every single day, I tell you that and try to find ways to show you too. I want you to grow up confidently knowing that although there are many new changes happening, one thing will always remain constant – and that is mommy and daddy are here for you, no matter what. So go ahead, explore the world, learn new things, try new experiences – I want you to do, see, hear, feel and try as many things as you can and as you want. But remember that when you get tired, scared, angry or frustrated – we’ve got your back.<br />Happy 6 months, Badoosh! Love, love, love you.Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-28332806055036080632011-08-30T09:23:00.000-07:002011-08-30T09:37:10.293-07:00Dear Jamie (this month you have earned the following nicknames: JiDoo - the baby ninja (because of your awesome kicks!), Baby Trucker (because you can belch and fart like the best of them!), and Bee-joo (because you are just bee-joo-ti-ful to me!),
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<br />HAPPY 5TH MONTH!!!
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<br />To our beautiful little angel, I can not believe that you are now 5 months old. It is just so unbelievably incredible to me that day-by-day we watch you grow and blossom. It is literally a miracle unfolding before our very eyes.
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<br />This last month, you have discovered the joy of turning from your back to your tummy - and back again. This has resulted in endless rolling around your crib and on mommy and daddy's big bed! This has also resulted in mommy and daddy becoming paranoid that you will hit your head on your crib rails or fall off our bed! We have since then become extra vigilant! (yes, more so than before!).
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<br />This month, you have discovered the joy of bathing in your whale tub. You squeal in delight when we let you play in the water. You kick and splash a LOT - resulting in getting our bed wet and most times giving your parents a bath too!
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<br />This month, you have discovered the joy of making pasyal. How you enjoy taking walks around the neighborhood in the afternoons. Some days you are even content to just walk around our tiny backyard.
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<br />This month, you have discovered the joy of books! I love how well you have responded to our storytime every night. How you seem to listen when we go over your alphabet board. And how you occasionally respond to your learning flashcards (most times you end up eating the cards - but maybe that's a good thing - at least you care enough to give them your attention!).
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<br />This month, you have discovered daycare. I can't really tell if you love it there - but so far, you seem to enjoy the 4 hours a day you spend there. It was hard for us to leave you there at first. But these days, I've come to accept that it is for the best - for you and for us too.
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<br />Sadly, this month, you also caught your first cold. Well, it's not really a "cold" just a runny nose and a slight cough. You see,ed to handle it well though. No extra fussiness or crankiness. You were a very amiable baby even when you weren't feeling all that well. I'm so glad it wasn't anything worse like a fever or ear infection. But we did take you to Dr. Chung yesterday just to make sure. She said you were a-okay! =)
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<br />Jamie, the days just keep going and there's no way for mommy to slow things down and keep you my baby forever. But I know that it doesn't matter how big you become or how independent you turn out to be ... in my heart, you will always be my beautiful baby!
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<br />Love you so, so much!!!
<br />MommyJunarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-4995565278642625722011-08-01T13:13:00.000-07:002011-08-01T17:40:39.843-07:00The Fourth MonthDearest Jamie, (nicknames this month include: Chimichuri, Jamie-churi, Gabriellei, Ellie, Ling Dumpling and Bibi-girl). <br /><br />It's been a month since my last blog entry ... I won't go into the usual litany of excuses about how busy I've been and have had no time to blog. In truth, the days have gone by fast and I've been preoccupied, but sadly the reason is more than that. In truth, the idea of blogging has not even entered my mind. I am actually "forcing" myself to post this entry just so I can commemorate another milestone event ... your fourth month celebration!<br /><br />FOUR MONTHS! WOOT-WOOT! HOORAY! You are growing up so fast. This past month has been filled with so many significant moments. This is the month you have started laughing out loud, started sitting up (with support, of course) and started rolling onto your tummy and then back again in a lying position. It is amazing to see you set out and try something new. And we marvel at how well you adapt to doing it over and over again. You are truly a miracle!<br /><br />This month, we've increased your milk consumption twice - hoping you would go on longer stretches between meals during the day. This has not happened though. You still eat every three or so hours - I guess you are drinking extra milk because you are growing so fast! We are glad though that you are able to sleep on average about 4-5 hour stretches at night - some nights as long as 8 straight hours. (That does not mean your daddy and I sleep 8 hours straight though - we are constantly checking on you and making sure you don't accidentally roll on your tummy and sleep with your face pressed on the bed).<br /><br />You had a couple of playdates here at home and attended several birthday parties this month. We notice though that you do well with small groups of people. However, you do get a bit overwhelmed with larger and noisier groups. Many of your titas, titos and cousins are amazed at how quickly and how loudly you can cry! We've had to leave a few parties early because you seem to get overly anxious at some of them. In time, I am sure you will get used to having lots of people around you too. There will be lots of opportunities for that, I promise!<br /><br />You've also taken an interest in playing by yourself, which is great. You enjoy playing with Mr. Seahorse, Raffy Giraffy, Bunny, Miss Penny Pig, and your froggy blanket. But for some reason you are annoyed with Ellie (Elephant) and your Singing Snail. You spend very little time on your motorized playmat and even less time on your electric swing. For some reason you seem to enjoy your "low-tech" rocker (the one we manually have to rock) rather than your other more "high-tech" toys! This aversion to technology is obviously something you inherited from me =)<br /><br />The one thing I also discovered about you (which I absolutely find endearing) is you seem to "look" for me. You could be in the middle of one of your banshee meltdowns. But as soon as I have you in my arms, you settle down and seem to be calmer. Of course this does not happen all the time but often enough for me to thank the heavens for this little miracle. Also, you still sleep in your bassinet (beside mommy's side of the bed) and are able to fall asleep if I extend my hand and hold yours. Many nights we fall asleep holding hands (or until I get a crick in my arm and I have to retract my hand from your grip!). Sometimes, though, you still get restless in your bed so daddy carries you to sleep in ours. You immediately roll over, nestle in my arms and often fall asleep almost right away. I just love that - even if it means less sleep for me because I am on alert in case I accidentally roll over you!<br /><br />But daddy does not feel too left out. You guys have special bonding times too. I can never make you squeal with laughter the way your daddy does when he tickles you. I can never make you smile as quickly when he makes his funny faces. And I can never hold your attention long enough the way he does when he invents new games for you to play together. You also take long afternoon walks with daddy around our neighborhood. I don't know who enjoys these strolls more - you (as you open your eyes wide with wonder) or your dad (as he proudly shows you off to the neighbors). The funny thing is you don't like being in your stroller but instead prefer to be carried around in your daddy's arms! This month, we've started using our baby carrier (daddy says you are getting too heavy to carry for very long). Luckily you seem to be enjoying being "snug as a bug" next to daddy's chest!<br /><br />Mommy lola still takes care of you and you also enjoy being with her. We notice how you enjoy your "pasyal-pasyal" time with her as you sit on the front porch and watch the cars go by. You enjoy listening to her sing you to sleep in the afternoon and you giggle a lot when she plays with you. I am sad that she will be going to Manila soon and that we'll have to place you in daycare. But I am convinced that it will be good for you too. It will be a chance for you to interact with other people and socialize with other kids. Your daddy and I took extra care in choosing a good daycare for you and we are hopeful that you will like it there too.<br /><br />Jamie, you are growing up so fast. In my heart, I wish the days would slow down so I can keep you as my baby forever. But in my mind, I wish the days would fly by faster, so I can continually see you grow into a beautiful person. You continue to amaze and make me proud. <br /><br />I love you my beautiful baby angel - now and always!<br /><br />Always,<br />MommyJunarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-18020286222862189472011-07-01T20:56:00.000-07:002011-07-01T21:17:05.147-07:00Third MonthYesterday was Jamie's third month. I don't know where the time went. before this post, my last blog entry was Jamie's second month recap. How could a whole month have already passed!? It's truly amazing how each day seems to drag on but how a whole month just whizzes by. <br /><br />This third month has been an interesting one. For starters, we have gotten to see a side of Jamie that is totally new to us. We've been used to a passive baby that only does three things: eat, sleep and poop. Now, we are getting to know a baby that likes to talk to us, that listens intently (as if she gets what we are saying) when we talk to her, that actually wants to have people play with her! Gone is the passive Jamie and in her place we have the cooing, laughing, and smiley Jamie. It is truly delightful to just sit in bed with Jamie and have her giggle and interact with you. <br /><br />This month my mother-in-law has been a huge help - coming over almost every day to take care of Jamie while I get things done around the house and run errands. It was nice too that I got time off to spend with my friends, Jogs and Les, who spent part of their honeymoon in LA. But what I like most about having mommy lola take care of Jamie, is the fact that it allows me to have quality time with my daughter. I think it does both me and my baby a lot of good!<br /><br />Jamie has been growing well. Her appetite is good and although she has not increased her milk intake too much, she seems to be retaining more milk these days (pooping has decreased considerably). Also, sleep habits are somewhat improved. There have been nights where Jojo and I snuck in 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep! But ... those are few and far between ... mostly we get 4-5 hour stretches (for which we are already very grateful).<br /><br />Apart from dry skin, which has led us to using Cortizone to minimize itch and Aquaphore to hydrate skin - Jamie's third month has been pretty smooth sailing. She has developed some unusual habits - not only does she thumb-suck, Jamie actually puts 3-4 fingers in her mouth at the same time (thus triggering a gag reflex!). She also likes to scratch herself (sometimes inflicting little scars on her face and scalp!). I've started cutting and filing her nails every other day. Jojo has started using mittens on her hands (which she removes) so we've resorted to using long socks on her hands (they stay on just a wee bit longer!). Also, our baby has developed an aversion to using her pacifier and to being swaddled at night (two things she used to seem to like!).<br /><br />Lots more to recap but fr the most part, it's been a tiring yet fulfilling third month. Jamie continues to be amazing and wonderful! It just seems to continually get better =)<br /><br />Dear Jamie (this month's nicknames include: Bibing, Shepepeng, Bing-ti-di-bing and Baby-Jamie-Jamie-Baby),<br /><br />Another month has passed by and you continue to grow into a beautiful (both inside and out) person. Your personality is starting to show and I can not stress enough how excited I am to continually discover more about who you are. You seem to have a mind of your own (even at such a young age) and I am so happy about that (hopefully I won't have to eat my words!). You are incredibly determined when you are learning or discovering something new (like lifting your head during tummy time sessions). You continue to amaze me and make me proud.<br /><br />Thank you, Little One. Thank you for trusting me and sharing your smiles with me. Thank you for allowing me to make mistakes as I learn to be a better mom. I am truly humbled to be your mom and to share this journey of growth and development with you. I am looking forward to the next month and to being part of your life!<br /><br />Your daddy and I love you to bits - now and always!Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-83645451282017249072011-06-13T13:38:00.000-07:002011-06-13T13:50:20.121-07:002 Months and 2 WeeksJamie is 2 months and 2 weeks old today. Amazingly there have been so many little milestones she has reached. For starters, she is so much interactive these days. She literally smiles up at us when we sing her silly songs and when we call her silly names. She can coo back at us when we talk to her, making us believe she truly understands what we are saying. She even bats her eyes and laughs out loud when we play with her. It's such a joy that such a little person can be so wonderful.<br /><br />What makes Jamie so interesting is all the little mannerisms she has that make her truly unique. I love how she always has her hands clasped (like she's praying or holding them demurely together like a proper little lady). She also has a way of curling her toes and arching her feet when she's drinking her milk. Like she's super excited to be eating! Jamie also has a very cute way of puckering her lips while yawning. It's almost as if she's fighting off the yawn by making her mouth smaller. But my favorites has got to be how she twists her head from left to right (ala Stevie Wonder) as she breaks into one of her stretches (complete with arms thrown up high). She absolutely looks so relaxed as she does this. So totally cute!!!<br /><br />I could go on and on about Jamie and all her wonderfulness - but I probably should stop before I bore any of my readers. Suffice it to say this little girl is a true blessing to us and she continues to make me a believer that miracles still come true every single day!Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-28853931454744545922011-05-29T21:04:00.001-07:002011-05-30T09:34:32.613-07:00Jamie's Second MonthToday is actually the day before Jamie's second month ... but I thought I'd get a head start on writing this post to commemorate the event. It's sort of hard to believe that another month has flown by ... I find myself waking up each day, going about our little routines and it sometimes seems like time goes by so slowly. And then, I look at the calendar and it's already time to celebrate another monthsary. It boggles the mind! <br /><br />In just 2 months (that's 8+ weeks or 60+ days), our little baby girl has grown so much. When I look at Jamie's pictures, taken when she was still at the hospital or when she just got home, it's amazing how bigger and fuller she is now! I am so amazed at how much our little angel has changed in such a short amount of time. <br /><br />I still love how our baby looks when she is sleeping peacefully, how her whole face scrunches up when she wakes up from sleep and stretches, how she opens her eyes wide when she looks up at me, how she makes small contented sighs when she's drinking her formula or when she yawns. And now, this 2nd month, there are even more things I am discovering about her that I love.<br /><br />This second month:<br /><br />+ Jamie definitely has a personality and she's not afraid to show it. When she's hungry - she makes sure we know she wants her milk and we better make it as fast as we can! When she wants to play (instead of sleep), there's no amount of begging on our end that will get her to close her eyes. And when she wants to be carried, there is no trick we have not tried that has worked to keep her in her crib! Such a strong-willed little force to be reckoned with!<br /><br />+ Jamie has two sets of families that love, love, love her - it will be a true test of our parenting skills to keep her from getting spoiled. My mom was here the first part of this month and would go on walks with Jamie every morning, would carry her and rock her to sleep at night, would coo and cuddle with her when she got fussy. Jojo's mom was with us the second part of the month and she would tirelessly carry Jamie all afternoon just to get her to sleep, she sings endless lullabys to get Jamie to settle down, and is on hand to feed and change this little baby. My sisters, Jojo's sisters, my in-laws and Jojo's in-laws are on-hand to ooh and aah over this beautiful baby. I can't get over how much of a star she is whenever we have get-togethers!<br /><br />+ Jamie has been steadily gaining weight and getting bigger. I am so glad every time we go for weigh ins at Healthlinks. I used to fret about her small stature - but these days I am assured she is a healthy baby girl =) <br /><br />+ I am worrying a lot though about vaccines. This Wed Jamie is getting her first round of shots and I am so scared ... I've been talking to everyone and anyone who cares to listen. I've done a lot of research. I've read everything I can get my hands on regarding vaccines. I know the positives outweigh the negatives by leaps and bounds ... but my heart aches thinking of the pain it may cause Jamie and the possible negative effects there may be after she gets her shots. Oh the pains of being a parent! I have never appreciated my own parents more than I do now!<br /><br />+ We've had little milestones - such as Jamie's first time to go to mass (and she behaved beautifully all throughout!), Jamie attending her first party (her cousins' first communion celebration - she was a hit because everyone wanted to hold her!), Jamie starting to interact more with Jojo and myself (I love how we can play little games with her and she coos back at us and flashes toothless grins). Also, Jamie has now transitioned (flawlessly) to sleeping on the big bed (with us) to sleeping on her bassinet (beside us). Biggest perk is we now enjoy 4-5 hour stretches of uninterrupted sleep - some rare nights we even have a 6-hour run! Such a blessing =) It is amazing what a precious gift this baby girl truly is to us.<br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">To my dearest darling Jamie (we still call you all those nicknames from when you were born to a few new ones we've added this month : Toothless, Haymee-hames, Scarface, Baby Banshee, Pretty-pretty, and Sweetie),<br /><br />You are the light of your dad's and my life. Thank you for giving us a reason to wake up each morning and making us smile every day. We are so glad that we have you to make our family complete.<br /><br />Happy second month, Jamie! </span>Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-41826675058347459622011-05-23T10:20:00.000-07:002011-05-23T17:36:45.380-07:00May 21: Doomsday (NOT)There has been a lot of talk about May 21st being the supposed end of the world. It has become such a hot topic that it was even discussed in yesterday's mass. (Now, I know it's pretty serious when Fr. Treadue talks about it during the homily!). Well, May 21st has come and gone - and since we are all still alive and breathing - it just goes to show that no one knows when exactly the end of the world will happen. You would think that by now, people would wise up and stop believing these "rumors" and supposed prophets should stop trying to make "predictions". We should just go on with our lives and if the end of the world comes during our lifetime - then we deal with it then and there (after all, if it does happen, there really isn't much we can do about it anyway!).<br /><br />Despite my skepticism about the prediction that May 21st will be the day the world ends, I did stop and think about how I would have lived that day any differently. Of course, if I had a choice I would like to be surrounded by my family and doing the things I love to do. Come to think of it, that's pretty much how we spent last Saturday anyway. We were at home (Jojo, Jamie and I). We watched tv, read books, cooked meals, napped and did chores (all the things I like to do - well, except the did chores part!). I would have loved to have my mom, brothers and sisters close by (but I know they were all doing what made them happy on a Saturday too). I know mom went to watch a play with her friend, Jules had a dinner party at home, Jim was in Boracay with friends, Joy was at the movies with classmates, and Atsi was spending the day with Mark. So even if we were not all together physically, everyone was happy where they were. But more importantly, I got to spend it with Jojo and Jamie - safe and sound at home. <br /><br />So, if the world did end last May 21st - I guess I would have been pretty content with where I was and with whom I was with - and honestly, I would have been ok with the life I have had so far - because honestly ... it has been pretty awesome =)Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-77410446367785882212011-05-18T13:18:00.000-07:002011-05-18T19:29:32.609-07:00To Breastfeed or Not To Breastfeed?I want to start out by saying I believe 100% that breastfeeding is best for baby. It is also beneficial for mommy. This post is by no means detracting from all the good things that come from breastfeeding one's baby. <br /><br />However, I want to write about the fact that I did not have a very good experience with breastfeeding. I don't really know who to blame for that - so I'm chalking it up to circumstance (basically, it's just how things turned out). When I delivered, I was so gung ho on breastfeed exclusively. I told myself that Jamie would be purely breastfed for at least the first 3-6 months. To prove that, I did not buy a single bottle, nipple or can of formula. Jojo and I were committed to making it work and we attended not only breastfeeding classes, but also breastfeeding clinics and sessions with lactation consultants. <br /><br />The first few days after I delivered, we diligently tried to breastfeed round the clock. Every 3 hours, we would put Jamie to breast (morning, noon and night). We even woke her up when she slept through feedings. We did the usual 15-20 minutes per breast. It was really hard because I had to feed every 3 hours and each feeding took almost an hour. I had to feed Jamie and take care of her 24/7 all while recovering from a C-section! I was so tired and in a lot of pain - but I had to do it since this was the only food source for Jamie. I repeatedly declined the nursing staff's offer to give Jamie a bottle of formula. This is what I learned from lactation consultants and Jamie's pediatrician.<br /><br />We noticed though I had no milk at that time. I was reassured that the baby had enough "extra food" in her body to get through my dry spell. I was also told that colostrum (concentrated milk) was coming out even if I could not see it. Jamie lost weight every day for the first 3 days which worried me, but I was told that babies lose weight during the first week anyway. So we kept trying even if it was already starting to get discouraging. By the 5th day (day before we checked out), we were alarmed when the pedia on call announced our baby lost 12% of her weight and he was ordering her to be put on formula immediately. You can imagine how devastating it was for me as a new mom. I found out my baby was hungry all 5 days and that she was losing too much weight. I had no milk even if we were doing everything we were taught and told. I was a wreck, blaming myself and feeling terrible that all my efforts were in vain. It did not help my recovery from the C-section had complications as well. I was still bleeding, bloated from all the excess water, and really physically tired and in pain.<br /><br />When we left the hospital, I was still determined to breastfeed. We rented a hospital grade breast pump to help me extract milk. I did this round the clock too. I would put Jamie to my breast every 3 hours (or whenever she cried) and pump in between. My breasts were sore but we did not get a whole lot of milk. I was frustrated every time. We tried this for a week. Jamie was feeding about 8 times a day. We had her drink breastmilk from a bottle for 6 feedings, supplemented with formula for 2 feedings, and latch on to the breast in between. It was really physically hard. I was still tired from my operation, was still taking painkillers for the pain, and did not get enough sleep cause Jamie was extra fussy especially at night. I was cranky and depressed most of the time. I actually broke down and cried several times - all in one week!<br /><br />The second and third week got a little worse. Jamie progressively needed more milk and I was producing the same amount or even less. Sometimes I would pump and get 30 ml of milk, while Jamie needed to eat 60-90 ml per feeding. I would have to pump twice (every 3 hours) to feed her once. This resulted in using formula more and more. Every time I used formula, I had feelings of guilt and self-doubt. It was such a frustrating cycle. My mom was making me all kinds of soupy dishes and healthy food - all in the effort to increase my milk production. I was on the web researching all sorts of ways to increase breastmilk - from fenugreek, to milk thistle, to blessed milk thistle. Nothing helped!<br /><br />By the fourth week, we were down to 50% breastmilk and 50% formula (and then less and less each day). I was really physically, mentally and emotionally tired from breastfeeding. Jamie was also getting increasingly frustrated every time she latched. (By the way, her latch was ok - as per the lactation specialists we met with - I think it was more because she wasn't getting enough as compared to the bottle). Increasingly, I was under so much pressure that it was affecting the way I treated my baby, my hubby, and everyone else around me. It was then I decided to let it go. I would breastfeed as much as I could but I refused to let it continue to consume me. My rationalization was that I wanted to be a good mother and breastfeeding was not the only way I could do that. <br /><br />By the 5th week, my milk supply was at an all time low. Sometimes I was down to 20 ml per pumping session and Jamie was already at 90-100 ml per feeding. I then decided that pumping was not helping so I decided to forego the pump and just have the baby latch on when she wanted to. By then, we were about 80-90% dependent on formula already. During this time, with the support I got from my mom, husband, sister, family and friends, I started to let go of all the insecurities I had about not being able to breastfeed. I started hearing of so many others who had the same frustrations, concerns and issues that I did - and it gave me some sense of relief. <br /><br />By the 6th week, we were on 100% formula and breastfeeding just on occasion (sometimes just to pacify Jamie or to get her through the next feeding). Did I feel any guilt over this? I guess somewhat ... but I also felt that I was being a better mom to my baby because I could focus on doing other things for her rather than being consumed by just breastfeeding. I also felt it was better for me too (I had overcome the onset of a post-partum depression primarily brought about by my breastfeeding anxieties). And lastly, I was a better person to live with as I am sure my hubby, mom and sister can attest to!<br /><br />Today (Jamie is at 7 weeks), I have stopped breastfeeding altogether. My baby no longer looks for it and I no longer offer it. I'm not proud of this but neither am I racked with guilt. It is what it is. I have finally come to grips with the whole breastfeeding issue. I still believe in its benefits and still admire women who are able to do it. I do realize though that even with the best of intentions sometimes it just does not work out the way we want it to. There are times when it is beyond our control. I refuse, though, to let my inability to do it define who I am or the kind of mom I can be. I still want to be the best mom I can be and I know there will be other opportunities and instances wherein I can prove that to my daughter.Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14663150.post-65988017339887324932011-05-08T19:35:00.000-07:002011-05-08T19:54:29.456-07:00My First Mother's DayMy very first mother's day celebration is a bittersweet event. On the one hand, it is a happy occasion now that I have Jamie with me and I can stare into her beautiful baby eyes. On the other hand, it is also somewhat sad because, last night, my own mom left for Manila. <br /><br />Rather than focus on my own experience of being a mom (which is all of 37 days and counting), I'd rather spend this post and talk about my own mom. After all, I owe her so much and I want her to know how special she is to me.<br /><br />My mom has always been the ideal mother. When we were growing up, she was the quintessential homemaker who believed the family should eat a home-cooked dinner together every night. She baked cookies and was active in parent teacher activities in all of our schools. She welcomed all of our family and friends into our home (we had dinner guests almost every night!). She held the family together by making sure she was a loving wife and a doting mother. Many times, we were teased by our friends for having the perfect "Brady Bunch" family - and largely it was because of my mom. I will forever be grateful to my mom for giving us such a happy and well-balanced childhood. <br /><br />Fast forward to today, I am now 36 years old and despite of my age I still rely on my mom for so many things. I've lived away from home for 10 years but still value my mom's advice, her tips and techniques for keeping a home running in order, her insight on my personal and professional life, and her encouragement whenever I feel down. She has never failed me even though she is so busy taking care of so many things. <br /><br />Recently, my mom came over to the States to help my sister, Joy, get settled for school. She also came to help me during my last stage of pregnancy and as I started life as a new mom. I can not stress enough how invaluable her presence was for all of us. I am grateful not only because of all the meals she prepared, the housekeeping she did, and the shopping trips she went on for us. (Of course, those are much appreciated too!). <br /><br />But I am more grateful for her quiet presence in the house. She has helped me retain my sanity especially the first few days after I delivered Jamie. I truly believe she is the main reason I got over the onset of my post-partum depression. Her encouragement helped make me stronger. Her calm manner helped put things in perspective. Her support helped me see that I could manage being a new mom even when I thought I could not. Her reassurance helped make me lessen my doubts and fears. I owe a lot to my mom for helping me adjust to motherhood. I do not think I could have done it without her. So please allow me to THANK her from the bottom of my heart.<br /><br />I guess the message I posted on mom's Facebook page today sums it up best: <br /><span style="font-style:italic;">We all believe we have the best mom in the world. I believe God intended it that way when he chose which moms & which kids go together. Today, I wish Judy L. Lim, the best mom for me, a HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY. Mom, you truly are God's blessing to me. I can't tell you enough how grateful I am for all that you do & how much you mean to me. If I could be half as good a mom as you are, Jamie would be so lucky! I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH.</span>Junarakasahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05571990732794809446noreply@blogger.com3