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Thursday, July 31, 2008

Big News

This may come as a shocker to some ... but to those that really know me ... it is something that's long overdue. After 2 years of working in this company, I finally turned in my resignation. Yes! I finally did it. I had a long heart-to-heart with my boss on the 21st and told him I was leaving. He wouldn't accept my resignation. He asked me to reconsider and to think about what I really wanted so he could meet what I needed. To be honest, I really thought about it and weighed all my options, but in the end moving on was all I could think of doing. Nothing they offered really made a difference. So on the 24th, I talked to him again and told him I had made up my mind to leave.

The day I made that final decision I really felt as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I know this may sound a little exaggerated but (even if I am still going to the office to finish up a few things) I've felt that the last few nights I've been sleeping better, I've had a little more energy when waking up in the morning, and I have been less irritable (haha) towards my hubby. I can literally feel myself de-stressing! And the coup de grace, was having a colleague stop me at the elevators this morning and ask me if I was doing anything different since I looked more relax and refreshed lately. Isn't that awesome?

I don't mean to make light of the situation - after all my decision to leave this company came with a lot of soul-searching, long talks with loved ones and colleagues, prayer and a complete leap of faith. I am leaving this job with no other job waiting for me, no other company to transfer to, no other source of income other than my hubby and our savings. But even with all the uncertainty, I figured life is too short to be stuck doing something you are miserable at and doing it where you feel so unappreciated. It has gotten to a point where I hated going to work and would end us a frustrated, nervous, stressed out wreck at the end of the day. I was working more than 10 hours a day and even bringing work home on weekends. I had started neglecting myself - I gained so much weight, had really bad skin, awful sleeping habits and was sick all the time. I was irritable when I got home and sleepless most nights worrying about work. I had no time quality time for myself or with friends. It was just such a bad place to be in and all for a job where I found no satisfaction and no meaning other than a paycheck every 2 weeks.

Sure I'll miss the paycheck (which was great) and the benefits (also great) and of course the friends I've made here (which hopefully I'll still keep). But in the end, I don't think I could in good faith subject myself to any more of this and still come out a sane, happy, balanced and well-adjusted person. I don't want to get into too many details as to why working here was so bad (especially since I'm still here). That could just mean some legal drama down the line. But trust me when I say, this was not a place where I could see myself professionally and personally developing nor was it a place that encouraged commitment and dedication. Enough said.

Anyway, I'm here for a few more days or maybe weeks. I told my boss that I wanted to be fair and not dump all my work on some poor unsuspecting soul. In actuality, there is no one else at this point to even dump it on. So I said I'd hang around a few more days till they find someone and until I could properly turnover to that person. After all the drama I've been through, my dad and hubby were telling me I didn't have to do this ... after all, this is California, and we are an "at will" employment state - meaning I could quit and walk out the same minute and never have to come back. But I thought about it ... did I really want to do that? Did I really just want to leave without being accountable for my department and the work I already started? Did I want to be the person who bails without a care and leaves it all for someone else to figure out? Did I want to burn all my bridges and open myself up to the possibility of bad karma? My conscience said "no". I've been waiting for almost 2 years to leave ... what's a few days or weeks more if it makes it easier for everyone involved. After all it's not like I have another job that wants me to start work in two weeks!

Which brings me to what most people have been asking ... "so what are you going to do now?". Well ... at first I was worried about that ... we do have monthly expenses that can't be put on hold when I stop earning. But luckily I have a super loving hubby who is willing to support me while I take a few weeks off to really figure out what I want to do. Worse case is we'll have to dip into our savings. Something I am strongly opposed to doing but as Jojo said "what are we saving money for ... it's to see us through the tough times ... and while we may not even have to use our savings ... knowing we have it as a back-up will make this easier for you". So true! And of course, my folks have also offered to help out (which is awesome of them but honestly will be my very last resort). I was also worried about being bored out of my mind (which tends to happens when I'm left on my own too long). But we'll cross that bridge when we get there.

So I'm taking a few weeks (actually months) off to recuperate and de-stress. I have to work on eating healthier, exercising more, sleeping better, and finding time to relax. I have to be a better wife and make it up to Jojo with home-cooked meals and a better kept home. On a professional level, I am planning to get my Training Certification and maybe do some part-time consulting work if I can. There are a couple of volunteer programs I am also looking at joining. On a personal level, there are so many "happenings" coming up too. My mom and sister are here in August to work on Atsi's wedding. Mom is leaving by the end of August but Atsi and I will still have Sept to work on all the last minute details. Since unofficially I've been acting as her wedding coordinator, I can now do this full-time. My parents are coming the end of September and we are planning to do some traveling before the rest of the family arrives for the wedding (which is on Oct. 18th). The twins will still be staying on till mid November and I'll have to find ways to entertain them too. Then in two weeks (early Dec.) I leave for Manila where I am spending a month back home. By the time Jojo and I get back from Manila, it'll be January and the start of 2009 - time to look for a job. When I think about it, this is actually the best time for me to be out of work.

This is a big step for me. I'm happy and excited (rather than scared and apprehensive about losing a job), which makes me think I made the right decision. I am actually excited about living the next 4 months without a to-do list and without a rigid schedule (can I do it without going crazy or without driving everyone around me crazy?!). I am also looking forward to spending time with family and friends - and really enjoying that time with them without having deadlines and projects weighing in at the back of my mind. I'm also looking forward to maybe this being the time we can start a family. It could happen! But mostly I am excited to see what new things could come my way. This could be pretty awesome!


jeff said...

hi jo,

yes... i was indeed very shocked to read about this! although what you did is not totally unthinkable, it takes a lot of courage and confidence to do what you did...(well, you know i've been thinking of doing the same the past few years, but i never really got to do it. good thing i found this new job which is much better than the old one).

but you're right. the reason why we save money is exactly for moments like these. there's really no point to continue doing what you do if you don't feel any reason or find any meaning in it.

i'm sure things will work out for you. in the meantime, relax - and enjoy your well deserved break!

jol said...

Work takes the most time of your "waking" hours so it is important that you enjoy this. Two years is a lot of time to find ways and means to enjoy your work. It's now time to look for something else. The three month's break will recharge and refreshen you to start on a career that will be more to your liking. You have made your mark and it is time to move on.

leslie Ty said...

Hi Jo!

i was also surprised ( and jeff ) when I read the first few line of your blog... but after reading the entire thing...i'm actually VERY VERY happy for you. =)

HAVE fun and enjoy your loooong vacation =) you relly deserve this break! =)

Anonymous said...

Weird as it may sound, Congrats! I feel for you! I wish I could do the same pero di pa, eventually siguro. Nainspire naman ako sa iyo.

Kagustuhan siguro ng diyos na every time I come across your blog it always seems to be a serendipitous moment.

Perhaps it's because we're both tigers and our paths may be similar.

Jo, I just wanted to say, THANK YOU for posting and sharing. Tuwing nababasa ko yung mga sinusulat mo, I find some sort of comfort in the thought na hindi ako nag-iisa. Sobra bang drama? :P Pwera biro, totoo yung mga sinasabi mo and life is pretty short to worry about work and masama nga ang sobrang stress.

It's the other things in life that really matter that we tend to neglect. Sometimes we really need that wake up call. The good thing about this one is, it wasn't too late. You made the right choice and I'm sure there's something great out there waiting for you.


P.S. last lecture randy pausch passed away last week.

Joanne said...

Hi Guys, thanks for the words of encouragement. I was a bit embarrassed nga since your words of support and encouragement make it sound like I was doing an incredible feat ... when in fact, I am just quitting my job. But I know what you mean and I am really grateful for the support.

Dad - I can't thank you enough for all the support ...

Thanks for the phone call, Jeff. And we'll catch up in Manila with Les, of course! Although kayo na ang kailangan mag-libre sa akin (haha!).

Monse, I'm so touched ... I write to release my stress and angst but if any one found it in any way inspiring... well that's great too. Hope we can catch up and "inspire" each other in person soon.

Anonymous said...

Hi jo! Kausap ko si Charis sa phone, nasa LA siya. Sabi niya anong number mo? If you want to meet up with her, please call her at 909.980.2082

- monse :)

leslie Ty said...

hi jo!

honestly you inspired me too! =) basta...september is a make or break month for my don't be surprised if you see me in LA soon =)

by the way, i forgot to give your cell no to charis...i told her to get in touch with you =)

love, les

Anonymous said...

been there, done that, jo. know exactly what you mean. the relief is so tangible that you cut it with a knife.

well, you go through the bad ones to know what the good ones taste like.

am happy for ya.

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